Doing it or Having it – Because You Always Have


I found myself re-thinking some of the items in my home recently, that I felt did not quite fit well anymore.  They were not really serving the same purpose, in the same way as before.  Yet I had them because I had always had them.  Then the wheels in my mind began to turn……

I was trying to “make” them work.  Fit in a space, they did not quite fit.  Some of the items were definitely worn out, but I hate throwing things away.  I feel very blessed to have the things I have in my life.  I feel blessed to be able to have afforded them.  As I grew up very poor, throwing things away simply because they were getting old or did not fit quite right, was just not an appropriate option for me!

However, I began to re-think/see this as an opportunity.

The first item in question was a bookshelf.  While of course, it still held books and in that it was functional, it was definitely beat-up.  More importantly, it was simply too big for the room it was in!  I wanted to make space in the room, but how?  I had absolutely no other place to move it too.  Technically, I also very much needed more book space than it afforded.

I decided I would re-arrange the office closet and sort through some old stuff.  Purging things I no longer wanted or needed.  In re-arranging the closet, I decided it was a perfect spot for my new bookshelf!  This would allow more space in the room, make a functional space and provide more shelves for books.  So, off to Ikea I went!  The land of organizing small spaces….to fit a large bill.  I know it is probably odd to get excited about storage options, but I truly was excited.

Yes, I guess I am a bit of a nerd.  I am definitely a book nerd!

I wanted to make it functional, provide more space and I wanted it to still be pretty.  So, I tucked it into “the space” I made in the closet.  Filled it with books and set up my knick-knacks for a special touch.  It was perfect!  The items I am no longer using or wanted to keep, I decided to donate to the salvation army.  What a better way to pass it on!  An opportunity for someone else to love it, as much as I once did.

The other bonus is this also upgrades my closet space if I ever chose to sell our current home.  The shelves are of course adjustable (another option my old bookshelf did not offer) and can become a sweater/folded clothes storage solution.  Maybe even shoes…in its future life!


SO how did this get the wheels of my mind turning, you might ask?

I began to wonder how often in life we hold onto people, situations, or material items that are no longer serving a positive purpose in our life; just because we are used to having them?  Simply because it has always just “been that way.”  Whether they work or not. Whether they are functional or not.

Whether they are still making a positive impact or serving a purpose in our life….we hang onto them.  


Yes, change can be hard, but it can also be rewarding.  It does not always mean that you have to “toss the baby out with the bathwater,” so to speak.  If it is a material item, maybe you can re-purpose it or donate it.  If it is a situation, maybe it is time to adjust it or find a way to turn it into something more positive.  If it is a person/relationship, maybe it is time to re-evaluate what the person or relationship means to you and how it is helpful or bringing positivity into your life.

Sometimes we can re-purpose, other times it may be best to simply purge whatever or whoever it is from your life.

In certain situations, this can be very tough.  However, I encourage you to look over your life as it is currently.  Take time to evaluate and decipher what is still working, what is not and why.  Do your best to re-purpose or donate, and if necessary purge what just is not working for you anymore.

I for one found it refreshing and invigorating.  I was proud of my solution and I hope you will be too!



About thoughtfulstroll

I am a veteran, a professional business woman and a counselor in training. Follow me on my journey to becoming a mental health professional.
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